Attractive, lusty, nearing 40, although advertising her age as 35, Hill hoped to duplicate a winning six-month relationship with John, a married 'zillionaire' genius with two children, who had urged her to quit her job as in order to be available full-time for him while he paid lavishly for her living expenses, before unceremoniously dumping her.

Some things, (like feelings that may arise when a man is given permission to be with other women), simply can’t be controlled and in the long run, it seems like a path leading to drama and heartbreak.Pseudonym of a psychologist living in Sydney, Australia, Hill recounts her picaresque adventures trying to snag a 'dick' to support her champagne lifestyle and high mortgage. While I understand Mo’nique’s and Hill’s rationale, I can’t buy into the idea of ‘controlled infidelity’. Doesn’t it lose its value when you allow your husband to bring other women into your relationship? If a so-called relationship isn’t expected to be monogamous, then what are the expectations for commitment? And on a higher level, marriage is supposed to be sacred. And really, could a woman even get upset if she ‘allowed’ him to do so? If he’s constantly allowed to have sex, who’s to say he won’t get attached or even fall in love with his ‘mistress’. For this reason, it’s easier for a woman to get attached after a sexual encounter.īut it’s not impossible for this to happen to a man. It’s a known fact that women, for the most part, are more emotional creatures than men when it comes to sex and relationships. If this sounds like a recipe for disaster to you, we’re probably on the same page. Overnight stays, dates, and weekend getaways are not allowed. Of course there are some rules to this (hence the term controlled infidelity). Some women believe that it’s in a man’s nature to cheat, so you may as well give him permission to do so. In an interview during her Oscar special, Monique was asked by Barbara Walters, ‘what if he cheats 20 times?’ Mo’Nique’s honest response was “So what? We’ve been best friends for over 25 years, and we truly know who we are.” Let’s not forget Oscar winning actress, Mo’Nique, who made headlines when she announced that she and her husband, Sidney Hicks, have an open marriage.Īccording to Mo’Nique it’s not a deal breaker or a need to end a marriage. And while I don’t personally know any, apparently there are some who exist. Yes Madames, there are actually some women who allow their men to sleep with other women.

If you’re wondering, as I did, if women ‘like us’ really buy into the idea of controlled infidelity, surprisingly there are some of us who do.

Sugarbabe by Holly Hill